Plant seeds for your healing
AUTHOR: LAURIE PINKINS
Matthew 13:8 KJV
Learn how to uproot the feelings of offense by planting seeds of forgiveness
You have the power to plant the garden of the life you want to see. Surviving trauma and abusive cycle leaves you with feelings of offense, bitterness, and resentment from those who knowingly caused you harm. You may also struggle with thoughts of returning to unhealthy grounds because it is what is familiar, thus repeating dysfunctional cycles. Until you come into the realization that you can cultivate the life you desire to flourish. Forgiving yourself and others of will uproot the feelings of offense. Holding on to offense will hinder you from blossoming into the person you are meant to be. In this article, we will discuss how to overcome offense and become a forgiving person.
how to uproot OFFENSE
When you are removing weeds from a garden, you must be sure you pull them up by their roots. You can’t just yank them out or they can regrow. Even if the small pieces of their roots remain. This is the same concept which applies when you are removing feelings of offense from your heart.
Discover the source of the offense. Being offended is a spirit that hides behind pain and trauma. It hides behind feelings of resentment, envy, bitterness, and even hate. This is why it is deeper than just letting it go. It is imperative for you to face the pain which triggered the feelings. First, identify the goal of the spirit of offense is to bring division. Next, pray and ask HOLY SPIRIT to reveal the root your offended feelings. Then, find scriptures in the Bible you can meditate and speak daily about forgiveness and unity.
Remove the source of the offense. Pain has deep roots and the only way to dig them up is with forgiveness. First, recognize when the feelings of offense arise. Next, gain clarification from the person or event on what their intentions were. Oftentimes, you can become offended by a simple misunderstanding. Once, the true motives are revealed, be intentional about forgiving. Then, decide whether you will remain in the same environment with boundaries or remove yourself, without holding on to any feelings of bitterness, resentment, or offense.
1 Corinthians 3:6 KJV
FORGIVENESS AFFIRMATIONS
i am free
i let go of the past
i am not offended
i forgive
i have faith
how to plant seeds of forgiveness
Forgive even when pulling up the roots of offense still hurts
The hardest part of letting go of the feelings of offense is when it still hurts. Forgiveness does not justify the actions of those who have caused you pain. It sets you free to receive the abundance available to you. Trauma was trying to destroy the ground of your heart. By causing you to become closed off or put your guard up. This did not allow for you to show or receive genuine love. However, you will need an open heart to produce the good fruit of healthy relationships in your life. Sometimes you may never receive an apology or changed behavior from those who have offended you. But, you have to be intentional about the seeds you continue to water. Everything you focus on continously will bear fruit. Stop watering the seeds of offense, resentment and bitterness, when you desire healthy relationships. Now that you are healing from the trauma, it is time for you to decide what type of seeds you are going to plant in your life. Open your heart to receive love after pain of trauma with forgiveness. Planting seeds of forgiveness will spring forth and harvest the abundance you desire for your future.
Scriptures for Worthy
There is power in speaking and meditating on the scriptures of the Bible daily. Read, speak, and meditate on the scriptures for forgiveness.
“Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of GOD, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of CHRIST;” 2 Corinthians 10:5 KJV
Next Steps
Find support from a therapist, life coach, trusted friend, or support group that can help you work through the feelings of offense.
Use these steps to uproot the spirit of offense and become a forgiving person
- Recognize the feelings offense is hiding behind
- Pray and ask HOLY SPIRIT to reveal the root of the feelings
- Find scriptures in the Bible to speak and meditate about forgiveness and unity
- Be intentional about forgiveness even when the pain still hurts
Read, speak, and meditate on the scriptures of the Bible for forgiveness. King James Version
Luke 23:34- “Then said JESUS, Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do. And they parted his raiment, and cast lots.”
Luke 17:3- “Take heed to yourselves: If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive him.”
Matthew 24:10- “And then shall many be offended, and shall betray one another, and shall hate one another.”
Proverbs 18:19- “A brother offended is harder to be won than a strong city: and their contentions are like the bars of a castle.”
Philippians 2:7- “But made Himself of no reputation, and took upon him the form of a servant, and was made in the likeness of men:”
Proverbs 15:1- “A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.”
Matthew 11:6- “And blessed is he, whosoever shall not be offended in ME.”
Mark 11:25- “And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.”
Luke 17:4- “And if he trespass against thee seven times in a day, and seven times in a day turn again to thee, saying, I repent; thou shalt forgive him.”
1 John 1:9- “If we confess our sins, HE is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”
Are you having feelings of offense or resentment? Want to transform your life today? Get your free consultation with a Life Transformation & Healing coach to start the journey to forgiveness.
To another faith by the same Spirit; to another the gifts of healing by the same Spirit;
1 Corinthians 12:9 KJV
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